Bruce Jenner, Matt Walsh, and The Examples They Set For Us

So very sick of this Matt Walsh character – the “blogger, writer, speaker, and professional truth sayer.” Oh that “truth sayer” bit really rubs me wrong, especially when he spews such venom and vitriol, sometimes “in God’s name”, and has continual disregard for actual scientific facts while propelling his own opinions into supposed facts.

So today I come across this awful thing written by him on my news feed where he decides to publicly humiliate Bruce Jenner by calling him sick and delusional.Matt Walsh - Bruce Jenner
Sorry, Matt, but you don’t get to decide that. Last I checked you are not a doctor, psychiatrist, or psychologist. The American Psychological Association does not view transgenders as sick or delusional. But you are right about one thing: he does need treatment.
Some individuals with gender dysphoria go to counseling to try to reconcile their assigned sex with their gender identity. Part of that process is figuring out what that identity is and assessing how comfortable they feel in their current body. Some people don’t need to transition; instead they just choose to dress or act in a way that aligns with their identities. Others feel this dysphoria and discomfort so severely, the only way for them live a healthy and happy life is to undergo full transition. The spectrum of possible treatments is wide and a transgender person can choose many different ways to cope.

Bruce Jenner and the many people who share his struggle do deserve to be admired and congratulated. It takes immense courage to not only come out to the world (a world that is most often very hateful toward transgenders) but also to take positive action toward improving one’s own life. He is setting an example for a lot of people that is okay to be who God made you to be – both inside and out.
So to Matt and the people like him, it isn’t any of your business how Bruce decides to cope with this massive burden he was given. You especially have no right to judge, preach, or teach about something that you so clearly are not educated on in any way other than your own warped views and propaganda that have no hold in reality. You cannot tear down someone else’s livelihood and happiness because you aren’t comfortable with it. You cannot make statements of “fact” without any actual facts to back that up (and citing non-credible sources doesn’t count either). You cannot simply dismiss an entire group of people because you haven’t taken the time to understand them or show some compassion.
And even if Bruce is delusional, how is it anyone else’s right to stop him from doing what he thinks is best for himself? He isn’t hurting anyone by doing it, so please just leave him to make his own choices for his own life and maybe focus on making some better ones for yourself.

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LEARN Before You Speak

So I’d like to share a thought with you all, if you’re willing to take a second –

First, a DISCLAIMER: You are hereby warned that the following post will be steeped with sarcasm. Readers, please view with discretion as the following sarcasm is not for the faint of heart.

(That was sarcasm right there, in case you didn’t notice).

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I’m in an experimental psychology class this semester and the class, at its roots, is basically all about learning how to think critically and individually, as well as how to evaluate claims. So on the first day of class, as he was going over our syllabus, my professor made the point that the skills we are learning aren’t just for research, but also everyday things (e.g. TV commercials, interpersonal ideas and relationships, etc.).

It’s about not taking everything you read or hear at face value! People tend to adopt the first point of view they hear on any given topic. THIS IS SO DANGEROUS! You must learn to think for yourself and know what makes an idea or a source credible and reliable. It doesn’t matter if a celebrity says something about how their diet is “scientific”; are they a scientist? No; their fame does not make them correct. Even at that, are they respectable scientists that are experts in that exact field? Well, definitely not, but you get the point. Or in other words, politicians should stop trying to be theologians and philosophers, hooray!

Things you should not base your knowledge or opinions on:
1. Intuition – when you “just know” it 
2. Authority – you look up to a person so you believe them regardless of their respective merit.
3. Superstition – magical thinking (i.e. something that is a diagnostic criterion for several psychological disorders, btw… Don’t be crazy; drop the superstitions! 😛 Just kidding… But for real though, maybe see a psychiatrist?)
4. Tenacity – hearing it so often it becomes “true” (e.g. views on high fructose corn syrup vs. sugar; the most recent studies are saying there is not much of a difference, last I checked)
5. Rationalism – logical, yes, but far too rigid thinking with black and white rules that are not always befitting (e.g. Christianity, Islam, or pretty much any religion – not all)
6. Empiricism – learning from observation and experience (i.e. just because you’ve seen a phenomenon occur the same way each time does not mean that is the only way it can occur)

A good way to learn is to use the scientific method (which doesn’t only happen in laboratories!), which combines rationalism and systematic empiricism (i.e. structured observation) but still has a rule of falsifiability (i.e. the hypothesis or theory could potentially be disproven — there are no concrete KNOWNS and there are no “UNKNOWABLES”). A study will not be regarded as credible by scientific journals and communities if it doesn’t adhere to these assumptions. Hey, scientists really can be humble!! 😛

So one of my professor’s examples for testing the claims you’ve heard was to “read the Scripture daily to see if what you’ve been told is true” — a preacher’s word is not truth, a writer’s word is not truth (yes, I speak of the Bible itself), and, “The Bible says it; that settles it” is one of the worst phrases on earth, especially when using it to defend your faith – IT ISN’T LOGICAL and people who do not believe what you do are going to see your intuition as insanity. If you’re goal really is to bring them into the church or show them the love of Jesus and you try to convince them using a faulty, stupidly ignorant, and ungeneralizable argument, you are not going to have a good time! Nor a lot of success.
These days, people highly value logical and factual evidence in making a decision about something (such as religiosity), so if you say you want to share the good news, then you have to change your tactics to be appropriate for your audience.
For example, if you want to “prove” that homosexuality is like the freaking worse possible thing on the entire plant of Earth (Seriously, people? Don’t you have something better to do than this? Like, I don’t know, worry about your own damn lives and “righteousness”), then you first need to see if what YOU believe is valid, NOT what someone else believes. Otherwise, you make a fool of yourself and the religion/political/social party you represent. Not a super effective tactic, eh?

To have decent and possibly “successful” debates with anyone about anything at all, you need to educate yourself. I mean, academically and scholarly (e.g. Bible school does not count because it is not based on scholarly evidence that is tangible and can be proven – Also, who here has a had some sort of minister that actually went to college and studied biblical language, culture, historical accuracy, and literalism? This is a legitimate question – comments welcome). In regards to the previous example, the Clobbering passages may be one thing you examine, which you can read about here: http://www.thegodarticle.com/7/post/2011/10/clobbering-biblical-gay-bashing.html

 You consider and evaluate things such as the original language, the problems of translation, the various (and contradicting) translations throughout history, the original culture, archaeological findings (which includes human artifacts, not just bones and mummies and whathaveyou), etc. This is to test the source’s VALIDITY. Then you’ll apply that to modern times and see if the information and ideas are have acceptable RELIABILITY (i.e. able to be generalized, same results each time the test is performed regardless of who is doing the testing, does not depend on fabricated “evidence” or on researcher bias, etc.). For example, standardized tests are reliable – that’s why they are called “standardized”. They are the standard testing method for our nations students, in order that we may evaluate their academic performance and progress. (Personally, I think they can be botched due to things like test anxiety and whatnot). Anyway, back on topic…

 

Let’s use the scientific method! (Yes, it can be used outside of a laboratory! Crazy, right?!)

So your first step is to form a hypothesis (e.g. what you think the Bible says),

Then put it to the test by collecting and analyzing data (e.g. finding out what the Bible really says and observing it directly; then you analyze your source’s credibility, perhaps by comparing what you have observed to the original language and culture, as well as scholar’s proposals),

Now you can draw conclusions (e.g. think critically about the results you have discovered – without bias – to determine if what you had been taught is correct),

Next, you do it again! 😛 (e.g. also continue to educate yourself via a multitude and variety of sources, which by the way, could even come from other religions – learning about Islam taught me a LOT about early Christianity) – this is a test of the validity of your method and results!

Another important thing is to have another person (in science, they are called peer raters) perform the same test on the same hypothesis to see if what they find is identical or similar to the original outcome – this is a test of the reliability of your method and results!

 

Thank you for reading. I hope you found it stimulating and informative.
I’m always up for an intelligent chat, so if there is something you want to bounce off of me, go for it! I’m open-minded. 

Please think and LEARN before you speak because your claims can, in fact, have a great impact on others’ lives – good or bad.

Like scientific or religious claims, for example. Even if a statement is later correct, many people cannot shake the bias of first impression and will continue to see and treat a person in accordance to that impression, which was based on something you said out of ignorance or pride.

 

Now go do something as awesome as you are, you cool cats! 🙂

My Identity and I are only acquaintances

My name is Kyndal Breanne Jane.

I am twenty years old.

And I have only known who I am for a year and a half.

I am bisexual and I am proud.

Let me impart some knowledge and dispel some false ideas about bisexuality. 

Our sexual morals. Yup, they do, in fact, exist! There are many people in this world that think that bisexuals are adulterous and entirely self-serving and non-committal, that we “get around.” But I am here to tell those people that we don’t all behave that way. Actually, most of us don’t jump on absolutely any and every attractive person we see, just to get a fuck. Dude, let me tell you, there is so much more to life than fucking. Most of us actually want to be in an exclusive relationship, surprise, surprise! We don’t want to lead on several different people, having them all think we’re so in love with them and would never cheat on them, but then go sex it up with one of the other side dishes. They’re all side dishes, for fuck’s sake (literally, for the sake of a fuck)! No, people like that disgust me because guess what? We all just want to be loved, and we want to love that one, single, same person right back! Yes, even bisexuals want to love someone – let me emphasize that – someone. I have a fantastic boyfriend. I’m bi, it doesn’t mean that I’m not committed. I love him and that will never, ever change.

And another thing: our sexual orientation doesn’t change depending on who we’re with. If I’m with a girl, I’m not all of the sudden lesbian. I’m still bi. I will always be bi. It’s who I am and I’m not changing for anyone. And on a side note: just because someone is gay or bi, doesn’t mean that they are automatically attracted to every member of the same sex. If Alex tells his brother, Tommy, that he’s gay and Tommy now knows that Alex, his brother, is sexually attracted to him, there’s a problem with that situation. Sorry, but no. Our attraction to people works the same as straight people’s. We don’t like everyone. Hell, I am so picky, it’s amazing I actually found someone who meets my standards! So if one of your bros tells you he’s gay, for the love of God, DO NOT assume that he wants your body, okay? Let’s just keep things as simple and non-awkward as possible.

What it’s like to be bi. You know, up until last year I was under the impression that I was straight – apparently I’m really good at lying to myself – and now I know that I’m actually attracted to both men and women. Honestly, it isn’t really any different. When I started dating my boyfriend, I was declaring myself as straight with “not a gay bone in my body.” I was cool with gays, just not okay with myself being a part of that culture. Well, the delusion had to end eventually. It was actually my boyfriend who helped me come to terms with the fact that I like girls. I’ve thought about being with (and have been with) girls since approximately the fourth or fifth grade. My first kiss was with a girl… I was eight. And I never counted that kiss before; I told everyone my first kiss was with that asshole my freshman year. It wasn’t really a great start to my “mature” kissing experience. But yes, my first kiss was most certainly with a girl. Yet I still told everyone I was definitely straight. The first time I consciously thought about the possibility that I might be attracted to girls was in the seventh grade at a school dance. A slow song came on and my friend and I didn’t have any guys to dance with, so we danced with each other. We were very close; basically prolonged hugging while simultaneously swaying side-to-side to the beat of some Rascal Flatts song. I remember. I had my eyes closed and then I heard one of the teachers telling us that we were too close. At first I was confused because I thought the 6-inch gap rule was only for girls and guys. And then, as we danced, I realized that, yeah, some girls like girls. Was I one of them? No, I couldn’t be; I have a painstakingly embarrassing crush on Easton Whatever-His-Last-Name-Is. He was Mormon. Anyway, no, I dismissed the thought. And that continued throughout high school, all the way up until I came to college. It was just easier not to think about it, not to even consider it. My boyfriend was patient and understanding, but ultimately still forced me to ask myself why I wasn’t okay with being attracted to girls. Not like he made me do anything. I, in an effort to make him believe I wasn’t really bi, kept giving all these reasons why I couldn’t or didn’t want to be bi. I wanted to make him understand that I was not attracted to girls. He never understood. He always refuted with something along the lines of, “You’re attracted to girls and that’s okay.” Eventually I gave up on that tactic and just came out. If you want to call it that. I only told the people who are closest to me, but if someone just came up and asked me, I’d tell the truth. And nothing has changed other than the fact that I’m finally free of attempting to restrict myself from the inevitable. In a nutshell, being bi is not so different from being straight, lesbian, or gay when you look at the big picture. I go to the grocery store, I go to class, I hang out with friends, I go on dates and all these things operate the same way they would if I were straight. The one big difference is that if you’re single and bi, you automatically double your chances of getting a date on Friday night. 😉

What it’s like to be bi on a Christian campus. One word. Tough. Sometimes it’s difficult not to jump in on a group of guys’ conversation about how hot Scarlett Johansson is. I’ve gotten some weird looks, ha. And let’s say if I wasn’t in a relationship and I was looking specifically for a girl, she’d be next to impossible to find. Not that there aren’t lesbian or bi girls here (obviously), but none of them are out because that’d be suicidal on this campus. I mean, people here don’t hate gays; they just don’t have very high opinions of them. You can be best friends with someone, but you’re too afraid to come out to them because it isn’t uncommon for them to just forget all about the awesome friend you are. I’m no longer Kyndal. I’m that bi girl. Hey, watch out in the dorm because that bi girl might try to sneak into your shower and infect you with her gay. Seriously, these are the things these people come up with. Yes, it’s very hard to live in an extremely conservative, religious, and homophobic community. I am lucky to already be in a relationship with an amazing person whom I hope to love for the rest of my life. I have some friends here who are having a rough time coping with the loneliness because it’s so damn hard to find a cute gay guy around here (they have apps for that, you know).

Why I’m only acquainted with myself. Well, that may be a bit of an exaggeration, but the point is that I’m still learning about this side of myself and how I feel about everything and where I want to go in life, etc. I suppressed my sexuality for so long, that I’m having to catch up with myself, if you will. It’s like that awkward phase you go through in high school where you’re just all over the place, experimenting, because you don’t know who the hell you are. Well, I think I’m figuring it out. 🙂

And for those who may be wondering, I am a Christian. God made me the way I am and He loves me the way I am. And I love Him.